Al X’s Blog

Now, this sums up what I was trying to tell Muslims even before I knew about Shaykh Faisal or my brothers Khan, Khattab, and YA Muhammad. Hamdulillah, they put this up and I’m just sharing this.

With pics of creation. Nice adhan!

It’s cooling off again here in the foothils of Georgia, and while it’s nice outside, it makes me miss the tropics from which I was kidnapped and to be brought here. Not that home is all wilderness like in this video, but it sure is beautiful, just ask Brother Al-Khattab.

Salam aleikum to the Muslims. In the name of Allah, I seek refuge in Allah from the rejected shaytan, the wickedness of our selves, the evil of our deeds, from misleading and being misled, from deceiving and being deceived, and from disbelief and poverty. I testify that there is no deity to worship except Allah, and that Muhammad ibn Abdullah is his slave-servant and messenger. As for what follows…

A few months back, I recorded ‘Disney and Divorce’ in which I indicted Disney and Hollywood in general for their unrealistic depictions of men aimed at women of all ages, ruining marriages in North America, and eventually the world. I said I would get to the flipside of this problem to which many brothers fell victim like idiots. This problem is porn. And contrary to what Rusty at My Pet Jawa will tell you, I’m no fan.

On Eid day, I was at the house of a couple, and we discussed the difficulty of Muslims we know in getting married. The day before, I had learned some statistics about porn for someone else’s radio show, so I shared one of them with the couple because of concern about how to protect our kids from it. Of the stats I found, many of them link porn to Christians. Pastors say that porn addiction is a frequent issue in couple’s counseling. Divorce lawyers say it’s a common cause of divorce now and was almost non-existent as a cause in 1995. 28 percent of porn addicts are women. Porn addiction can cause job loss because it is more powerful an addiction than cocaine to some brains. Over half of evangelical pastors admits viewing pornography. More than 20,000 images of child pornography posted online every week! Approximately 20% of all Internet pornography involves children! And as I said this, the wife of the couple said that a sheikh called it in a khutbah she attended one Friday “the fitnah of our age.” And it must be. If the Christians (and I mean the observant church-going Christians) are struggling with it, best believe we are, too. We come from homes where the parents are more opposed to early marriage than the Christian parents are, and yet will send us long distances to college. My fear is that it is far worse than what any of us may know already. Considering that Muslim women are actually more materialistic than kaffir women, further delaying marriage, and that Muslim men are disloyal to Muslimahs and running after disbelieving women, it is likely that not only are many Muslim men having this problem, but also that many Muslim women are, too. If Muslim women are going to struggle with porn addiction, then it’s only a matter of time before they’re shoulder-to-shoulder with kaffir women in sex shops, and not to buy just birth control, either! Now, there are Muslim men who do and who don’t do these things, and many who do will at least try to hide it, though this sort of thing isn’t hidden. But when Muslim women start buying substitutes for men who their parents won’t let them marry or who can’t afford to pay their dowries, it’s only a matter of time before they’ll start stepping out with kaffir men, and that will partially be Muslim men’s fault for our willingness to step over Muslim women to marry disbelievers. We’re closer than what we think to the end of the Muslim family structure in the kaffir countries.

The solution? We come from parents who believe that one’s degree and income and background are more important than one’s deen in getting married. We come from parents who would never help us marry young. But we don’t have to continue the cycle. The solution is for our generation to be the first to remember before we even have kids that we will be raising not only our own kids, but also someone’s spouses. Then to tell our kids when they’re young adults, not older adults, that we’ll help them marry and meet expenses until they can phase into financial independence on their own. Some of us say, “Where will they stay?” Well, where do they stay when they’re sneaking in the backseats of cars and fornicating? With us, where they always have! So, why demand that a non-drug dealer in his or her early twenties have his or her own place to stay before marrying?!

The next part of the solution is for us to rid ourselves of porn (which ruins men’s expectations of women and relationships), romance novels, Disney “princess” movies, Nickelodeon teenie bopper shows, and soap operas (all of which ruin women’s expectations of men and relationships). Husbands whose wives love them and consider them to be good husbands should be ready to give advice to younger Muslims who may seek it to be good husbands themselves one day. And we must raise our children with the remembrance in mind that they will not only be our kids, but someone’s spouse later on, and not teach them fantasies in place of reality. Because if we allow them to be set up for disappointment, then the porn will be available as an escape for them, and we don’t want that to be an attractive option for them, do we?